Today we’d like to introduce you to Amy Vasterling.
Hi Amy, we’re thrilled to have a chance to learn your story today. So, before we get into specifics, maybe you can briefly walk us through how you got to where you are today.
I’m somebody who can see what others cannot. As a child, I was able to in a sentence put boundaries on adults that would stop them from behaving badly. When I was little, I would listen to the moms at the grocery store share their concerns and in a sentence give them clarity about their problem. I had power that was in me. However, after years of being told others know better for me, that I’m too much, and a myriad of other things my confidence was dashed. I hid in mothering my kids all the while growing internally.
I was sexually, physically, mentally, and emotionally abused many times before I reached age 6. This was powerful for me to want to create change for others. I didn’t want any child to hurt and feel alone like I had. I did the opposite of what most people do with a problem they care to solve and I looked at the big picture observing people for over 22 years. I knew with my strong ability to see patterns I would eventually see this one and could solve this from a high level. I came to see “the abuser” is hurting and is trying to push that hurt, in this case onto me.
My result is I identified something I call “the model.” Which at its core is about control expressed in two ways. I now work with groups of people to help them gain a better understanding of how to release themselves from the model and move into natural equality. We thereby gently set down the hierarchy and come into our power.
We operate to restore our “personal knowing” or the actions we take based on what is true about us. My clients shared I am the only place they have to “talk about these things.” So I created a community called the Wisdom Gathering for people aiming to head out of the model and into their power a place to “talk about it.” A smart group of women convenes. This is a non-spiritual space where we talk about how things work for humans, what the future of our world looks like, and how we as an individual can expand into it. I have a forthcoming book on the topic.
I enjoy public speaking and teaching on the topic of personal knowing. I am currently in transition so while I have a home base in St. Paul, MN most of the time I’m out in our world exploring and learning the history of every place I visit. Seeing how these places played a role in the making of or sustaining the model and where they do not. Sadly, it’s rare to see where they did not.
To me, our problem is the hierarchy and as we return to knowing through trust in place of knowing through control we aim to reach our highest potential as humans. In turn, my big-picture thinking saw me to my own highest potential and how to help all people (in time) in place of saving only a few.
Would you say it’s been a smooth road, and if not, what are some of the biggest challenges you’ve faced along the way?
It was not at all a smooth road. I felt different and like I never fit. I was insecure because I know now, like all people I was constantly having my knowing paved over again and again until I came to a place in life where I could not recognize myself.
I had three things going for me. I am a lone wolf so I knew I could “do this” on my own. I am highly intuitive so I was stellar at putting patterns together to make sense of situations. Lastly, I am enduring, I can endure a lot of under-the-radar disorder others can’t see. This led to a lot of being gaslighted, attracting strong narcissistic personalities and more. It taught me how to let go. I’ve had to let go of everybody in my life. Some friends hung in there because we could both respect we were in the process of growing. Otherwise, everybody who is in the model had to be cut loose.
Truth be told my childhood and until I was around 50 years old was all about disconnection. I’m all about connection so that in itself was hard for me. I was lambasted when I’d ask for simple needs to be met. It was awful, painful and degrading.
I had 4 times I’ve had to move through and out of the model. The first time was as a parent and I literally and silently felt like I was breaking in two without words to articulate it. It was awful and lonely. Fast-forward 6 years from then and my peers and spouse were calling me a “magic” parent. It was no magic, it was hard won but this gave me experience to help decode the model in the lives of others. It helped me see the truth in parenting.
I am now in my 4th experience of moving out of the model and into my knowing. Those in the model respond to us to keep us in the model alongside them. If you want to free yourself from the model you need to, like me make some powerful choices that can seem a bit scary at first. You need to be done with those who tell you “This is just the way things are”. They are not and that is a sign for me to move out of relating to those people.
Alright, so let’s switch gears a bit and talk business. What should we know about your work?
I’m creative and eventually, I found my medium is public speaking. Yes, I was as surprised as you. Like almost everyone, I was terrified to speak in front of others.
However, one day decades ago after dropping my kids off at preschool I got a nudge to learn to public speak so when my kids had big milestones I could speak without my nervousness overriding the sentiment of what I wanted to share about them. Knowing this is true a few speaking opportunities came my way. Over a few years of speaking here and there my confidence came. I received accolades as a public speaker which helped set me apart from “just being a speaker”.
Then I took a year-long speaking class with one very heavy hitter in the speaking world as a teacher. His comments to me and his side comment with me alone told me I am unique in this ability and gave me the confidence to write the book establishing myself as an expert on the model and how it holds all of humanity back.
What does success mean to you?
I define success as being solid in one’s knowing. The action we take based on what we know is true about ourselves free of any form or assertion of control.
This lands us with the right people, in the right places where things work and work well for us without much effort. To me, this is a human birthright and I’d be lying if I didn’t share I’ve had some tears over this for our world. Life is pretty simple and the coolest part is if we’re all in our knowing quite literally EVERYBODY wins.
That’s the world I want to live in and I dared to watch quietly earning little to no money over 22 years to achieve it for myself so I can bring it to our world. I’d say I’ve already had success.
Pricing:
- $25 Wisdom Gathering Membership (ongoing)
- $30 Wisdom Gathering (Per Event)
- Speaking pricing please inquire
- Work together one-to-one for $145 (60 mins)
- Work together one-to-one for $80 (30 mins)
Contact Info:
- Website: https://amyvasterling.com/
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amytheintuitivepathfinder/
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/amyintuitivepathfinder
- Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amyvasterling/
- Other: https://linktr.ee/amyvasterling
Image Credits
Erin Latterall Burk
